So, it’s been a minute since I’ve been here and I know it’s not an official website (because who even uses blogspot/blogger anymore) but...so what. I’m on my own wave lol.
Anyway...it’s 2019 and...a lot of stuff has changed! We live in the DMV now and we’ve lost some weight and...we chopped of a good chunk of our hair. Which is the focus of this post.
I first started going gray at 10. I had a patch in the back of my head. It disappeared and then on my 20s, it moved towards the front. I don’t know what I started going gray early but I think it’s a combination of genetics and vitiligo. My aunt started going gray early and now has a full head of salt and pepper hair, which is glorious. My mother, her older sister, hasn’t let the dye go just yet. My grays in my 20s and my mother’s insistence that I would look older is what first started my affair with hair color. I’ve been dark brown, light brown, honey blonde, redhead, slight variations of burgundy. I recently went copper and my hair was bleached to the point of falling out. There were clumps and clumps coming out in the shower. I had to chop off A LOT of hair in order to get rid of the damage and my hair is still not even - my right side is shorter than my left side. To say I was upset is a massive understatement. I cried for days. DAYS. I spent years lovingly caring for and defending my natural curls in all their wild glory, only to have my curls decimated in three hours. After the cut was done in November 2018, I decided that if I had enough hair to put in a bun, I would leave my hair alone through December 2018 and January 2019. The universe allowed me to be able to put my hair in a bun, so I have literally been bun’d up since November 2018. Last week, I decided to really leave my hair alone, let this copper color grow out and let this dark brown hair with grays in the front flourish. Which brings me here today.
A friend of mine tweeted that she was going to stop wearing weave and let her natural hair so it’s thing. I commented that I was doing something very similar and thus #NaturalNineteen was born. In 2019, we are going to really love the way our crowns are born. Kinks, curls, grays and all. Whatever we have, we are loving it as it grows out of our hair this year. We are leaving it alone in terms of no color for me, no weave for her. Whatever you are doing to your hair to hide it, we invite you to join us in stripping away the security blanket and be bare in 2019. Will it be scary? Absolutely. Will there be moments of wanting to give up and go back to what’s familiar? 100%. I haven’t been without a bottle of dye to my head in over 10 years. But is it really loving my natural hair if I don’t love the grays? I’m not sure I can say it is. So, join my friend and I in our journey and we hope you partake on your own using the hashtag #NaturalNineteen
Love, peace and hair scarves.
